The promise of the sexual revolution, the promise of freedom and fulfillment beyond the traditional restraints of sexual practice, has not panned out. The prophets and gurus of that failed movement have nothing new to offer, only more of the same, as if the solution to sexual dissatisfaction were simply to have more sex. Like the exhausted prophets of Baal, pleading with their false idol to make his hoped-for power known, our generation, worn out with sex, continues nonetheless to insist on more of the same.
The members of the Christian community know there is a better way. If we can rediscover the Lord’s perfect plan for sex, we might be able, by our example and words, to show our contemporaries a way out of their disillusionment and despair.
We must not be afraid to talk about this subject, or to stand up for a Biblical view of sexuality whenever the opportunity presents itself. We must teach our young people and help them to believe that they can have a completely satisfying sex life only within the boundaries marked out by God in His Word. Let us equip them, and ourselves, to resist the continuous onslaught of sexual temptation which our secular and materialistic age hurls our way, and let us instead believe the Lord and learn to live within the parameters He has established.
Our opponents in this matter are outspoken and persistent. They will not be denied the “freedoms” and “rights” on which they insist, even though their revolution, rather than usher in a golden age of sexual freedom, has littered the social and cultural landscape with sadness and brokenness.
If Christians remain silent at this crucial time, our lack of a strong witness for a Biblical view of sex will only open the door to those who know nothing better than to continue insisting that, in the matter of sex, there are no absolute truths, and everyone needs to be free to do whatever seems right in his own eyes.
That way has not proved fruitful for happiness and fulfillment thus far. But if Christians fail to speak up for a Biblical view of sex, and to teach and encourage one another in the faithful practice of God’s design, then we will not be able to escape bearing at least some of the blame for whatever further ruin and brokenness may be foisted on our generation, and the generations to come.
With respect to the matter of human sexuality, there is a better way than the failed paths of the sexual revolution. Christians know that way. Let us be faithful to walk in it and to lead and encourage others along the path of a restored view of sex toward the promise of divine blessing for all who obey.
Resources for this topic:
Order the book, Real Marriage: The Truth about Sex, Friendship, & Life Together, by Mark Driscoll.
Here are some resources to help you understand the Biblical teaching about sex:
Chuck Edwards, “Kinsey, Sex, and Lies”
Matt Kaufman, “What is Sex Anyway?”
Frederica Matthewes-Green, “Bodies of Evidence”
Laura C. Miguelez, “Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity”
Anne Morse, “The Best Sex”
Fred Sanders, “Knowledge…‘in the biblical sense’”
Jimmy Williams, “Why Wait Till Marriage?”
Here are some activities to help get you involved in restoring a Biblical view of sex:
- How confident are you in your ability to talk persuasively about a Biblical view of sex? Make an outline of what you might consider your “talking points.” Then meet with a few Christians of the same sex to go through this. Ask them to help you improve on your presentation, then make copies of the final result to share with all of them.
- Talk with some leaders at your church about this topic. How could your church do a better job of equipping its members for a Biblical understanding of sex? Why is it important that the church do so? Offer to help in any way you can.
- Email today’s Talking Points column to several Christian friends. Challenge them to read some of the resources, watch the Two-Minute Warning, and take on one of the activities.
A conversation starter
Here’s a conversation starter to begin a conversation on the failure of the sexual revolution: “Everywhere you look the culture is pushing sex at us — film, TV, advertising, everywhere. When are we going to learn that this is not the way to real happiness and fulfillment?”